To be controversial, I will take the middle ground…
There are two problems when discussing female submissiveness. The first is distinguishing between sexual submission and social submission. The second is forgetting that we are talking averages, so there will be exceptions that do not disprove the rule.
In the first case, I believe that the majority of women prefer the man to take charge in sexual and romantic encounters. I suspect that sexually submitting to the strong (even forceful) advances of a worthy man is a turn on for most women. The prevalence of rape fantasies for women point to this desire to be forcefully taken (by an attractive man of their choice, of course). Women may vary in their taste for such submission, and occasionally may even enjoy taking the lead, but I imagine few women would enjoy always having to take the sexual or romantic lead.
The fact that some women prefer to always, or mostly, take a sexually aggressive role does not invalidate the belief that women will tend to favor sexual submission. Anyone with an interest in areas such as public policy and HBD should be well aware of the difference between averages (central tendency) and outliers.
The second case is probably less clear. Compared to sexual dominance, I suspect that a greater percentage of women enjoy, or are at least open to, taking a more dominant role in social situations. However, it is likely that, compared to men, fewer women relish such roles, and fewer will flourish in them. This is not to say that women cannot relish or thrive in leadership positions (Margaret Thatcher comes to mind), merely that a far smaller proportion of women will be happy in such roles. Here again we are talking averages. A far greater percentage of men will value and desire leadership roles and positions of social dominance. A far greater percentage of men who obtain such roles will be happy in them. Current social discourse is likely backward here: women are not driven out of scientific or managerial roles by “social construct” sexism; they are driven into roles where they may be less satisfied by social pressure.
The small fraction of women who truly enjoy and desire leadership roles are the cause of so many problems. These atypical women drove the feminist movement. They assumed that all women shared their discontent. Taking the socially dominant roles they wanted, they built and led a movement. Sadly, that movement misled many women, and not a small number of men. It convinced women that happiness lay in masculine roles of leadership, social dominance, and professional advancement. While this may suit some women, a larger cohort may have been pushed into roles that did not provide them fulfillment.
What is important to note is that even women who relish a socially dominant role probably still seek (at least to some degree) a sexually submissive role. After a takeover battle in the boardroom, she wants him to fight the takeover battle the bedroom.
I suspect that some amount of men have no pressing desire for leadership or social dominant roles (perhaps as much acquiescing to their lack of ability in this area). This cohort is probably larger than the female dominants. Because they lack the desire to bend the world to their will, these men cannot cause the same problems as the atypical women did.
I suspect that truly sexually submissive men are rare. Some of these “submissives” may actually be merely passive, finding ill ease in the forceful role expected of them. A man that sometimes enjoys having his woman take the lead may be nothing more than lazy (the active role is more work) or vain (it is nice to be desired).
“Heartiste” sounds suspiciously like one who would prefer the submissive role as compared to, say, “Roissy.”