Confidence

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After my earlier post where I covered shyness, I will now ponder confidence.

As with shyness, I do not know where confidence comes from. I suspect that confidence is partly a gift of nature. That is, some people are born confident and some are not. Confidence is more than the absence of fear (and I am not even certain that confidence entails complete lack of fear) it is the certainty that that they will achieve their desired outcome.

Unlike shyness, confidence can extend into areas beyond social life. Where experience can cure shyness by showing the shy person that they actually do have social competence, confidence is about having certainty in the absence of experience. The confident are sure of their success even in those areas where they may have little experience to draw on.

What is it that causes one person to be certain of their outcome while another is plagued by doubt? This certainty does not come from practice because it involves things the person may not have attempted before.

Many entrepreneurs appear (even allowing for a little bluff and bluster in their tale), to have had complete certainty in their venture. While we only hear about those who turned about to be correct, it still leaves the question of where that certainty came from.

In a mirror image of shyness, while confidence is useful for a woman, it is highly desirable for man. While we can build confidence by experience most of that (their may be some spillover into other areas) will relate to our newfound area of competence. The question is, how can we find confidence in all areas.

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3 Responses to “Confidence”

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  2. Hope Says:

    Not sure if I agree 100% with your conclusions. You wrote:

    “What is it that causes one person to be certain of their outcome while another is plagued by doubt? This certainty does not come from practice because it involves things the person may not have attempted before.”

    However, this is more like unmerited confidence, which is arrogance.

    “Confidence is generally described as a state of being certain either that a hypothesis or prediction is correct or that a chosen course of action is the best or most effective. Self-confidence is having confidence in oneself. Arrogance or hubris in this comparison, is having unmerited confidence—believing something or someone is capable or correct when they are not. Overconfidence or presumptuousness is excessive belief in someone (or something) succeeding, without any regard for failure.”

    Genuine confidence, in my opinion, is the result of hard work, trial and error, experience and knowledge. Otherwise it’s just bluffing.
    [DU: The confidence I was talking about was the kind that gives a person the expectation that he will succeed at a new task. They realize, and may even admit, their lack of experience, but still have high expectations for a positive outcome. Perhaps it is the difference between doubt at an intellectual level (the understanding that they could fail) and doubt at an emotional level (they understand that success is possible, but feel much more hesitant about the attempt).

    As you said, you build confidence through work and success. However, the unwarranted confidence will cause you to try more things.]

  3. neil skywalker Says:

    I think confidence is the most important part of game, doing business or sports. It is needed in all walks of life.

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