I wrote a while ago about the maxim that women age like milk, while men age like wine. Men tend to embrace it, while women tend to reject it.
Men like the idea because it seems to point to a rise in their power in the dating market. Women tend to dislike it because it points to a decline in their power in the dating market. However, I am not so sure either are correct.
If power is getting what you want, then I am not so sure a massive change of power happens. Even as they get older, men remain enthralled by female sexuality. Their newfound status may help then with older women but has less effect on the younger hotter women. Women, on the other hand are not so much settling for the older gent, but actively choosing them. In many cases, it is not that an attractive thirty-something women fails to attract the young jock, it is that her needs have changed. She no longer is choosing “lovers” she is looking for a “provider.” This is not “settling” as it often reflects a change in her preference.
Men can gloat about their relatively longer shelf life, but would be unwise to think they have gained massive power in the sexual market. They will most likely end up settling for an older woman (given that they probably retain some preference for younger/hotter) while she is probably getting just what she wants.
In any case, as I said in the original post, any small gain in success in his thirties does not make up for the lack of it (when he really cares about it) in his late teens or early twenties. He may find the joy of any success in his later years blunted by the memory of his failures in the years when he really cared about it.
So instead of attempting to deny the basic truth of the milk/wine analogy women should just shrug, realizing that it makes less difference to them than men assume. Women still get what they want, it is just that fewer men lose out totally.
I think 30 as the age a women hits “the wall” is far to low an estimate. Most women (assuming they were attractive to begin) can remain sexually alluring into late thirties or even early forties. They may not be quite as hot as their younger self but can remain competitive with younger women (especially if they stay in shape).
Health and happiness for a man is high success with women while he is young. Far better to be a youthful Lothario sitting back in his early thirties then to be a thirty-something dork who finds thirty-something women suddenly expressing some interest. If he can’t achieve success, health and happiness is a fifty-something sex drive in his twenty-something body.
No matter how he achieves it, health and happiness for a man is breaking the grip that female sexuality has over him. If he can’t do game, he can always try lithium salts :/.