It has always struck me that a lot of PU advice seems to describe all women as more like the ESFP party girl. While it is true that the bars and clubs where PUAs operate will probably attract a greater than expected number of ESFP, in Myers-Briggs terms, not all women are like that.
I have created a list of all types and their expected numbers in the overall population. The list descends in frequency of type; it is not in any order of preference or suggested gameability or desirability.
There were two sources for the list:
- http://www.theanconas.com/MBTI/mfstats.htm posted by paige on an In Male Fide thread
The large number is the average of the CAPT range. The (blue number) is the CAPT average for men. I show the details of CAPT range and the Ancona number below the listing.
Although not a PUA, I have listed how I feel a type may react to various approaches. Type is not destiny and people can surprise you. My type (INTP) is theoretical, so take it all with a good rattle of the saltshaker. In any case, the comments are at least a little tongue-in-cheek (mine not hers).
The type examples are more about those who I think match an archetype, rather than any knowledge of the person’s preferences. As I used public figures, I used their public personae, not a guess of their actual personality. For example I use Ke$ha as an ESFP, because her personae (such that I know it) seems like an example (perhaps extreme) of an ESFP.
I based the section on Drive/Needs on the preference order of cognitive processes for each type (first two). I discussed this in an earlier post.
I used Celebrity Types for suggestions where I had no guesses, but my suggestions do not always agree with theirs. Where we disagreed, I used my guess. I am open to corrections or suggestions from readers, especially where I have no guesses. I avoided actresses because it is difficult to separate the person and various roles she has played.
The bar shows the relative frequency of the type in females compared to males. More pink means the type is relatively more “popular” amongst females. For example: ISFJ appears with greater relative frequency amongst females, ISTP appears with greater relative frequency amongst males.
ISFJ 17.5% (7.0%)
May appear modest and reserved. Probably is modest and reserved. The most obvious peacocking may put her off.
Drives/Needs: Practical and grounded (Si) seeking affiliation and offering friendly service to others (Fe)
Examples: Celebrity Types suggested Mother Teresa (I might have put her as INFJ)
ESFJ 14.5% ( 6.5%)
In PU terms she may be the mother hen. She will be protective of the group, and responsive to its opinions. If she cockblocks, it is likely out of protective instincts and feelings of proprietary rather than malice. If you are interested in another girl, you will have to win her over. If you are interested in her, you will have to win the group over.
Drives/Needs: Affiliation and friendliness (Fe) grounded in practicality (Si)
Examples: Celebrity Types suggested Sarah Palin
ENFP 9.0% (6.0%)
Likely more reserved than the ESFP, may even appear shy or introverted. Less driven by sensation than imagination. Verbal cleverness not furry hats, or card tricks are probably what you need.
Drives/Needs: Use enthusiam, creativity and imagination (Ne) to express empathy and idealism (Fi).
Examples: Celebrity Types suggested Arianna Huffington and Maureen Dowd.
ESFP 8.5% (5.0%)
She is, the party girl. Loud, proud, and out for a good time. While not necessarily slutty, she will dress and act for impact. She cares less about what others think, and more about what she feels in the moment. Cerebral guys need not apply. Get your peacocking gear and extravert attitude on and she might be going home with you.
Drives/Needs: Sensation, sensuality, excitement (Se) and the need to experience and share emotion (Fi)
Examples: Ke$ha or any number of similar pop-tarts.
ISTJ 8.5% (16.5%)
Sensible and serious. Probably modestly (even if stylishly) dressed. If she goes home with you, it is only do your accounting or organize your filing system.
Drives/Needs: Practical and grounded (Si) organized, efficient and sometimes competitive (Te).
Examples: Possibly Condi Rice (could also be ESTJ).
ISFP 8.0% (6.0%)
The artsy type. More sensitive than the ESFP. A romantic with earthy undertones. Although more reserved in dress and manner, she will have a style of her own. Driven less by impulse but more by her own inner feelings.
Drives/Needs: Feelings of empathy and connection (Fi) with in-the-moment experience (Se).
Examples: Possibly Taylor Swift or Kari Byron (see ISTP).
ESTJ 7.0% (11.0%)
The practical and bossy type. If you have a thing for school-marm types you are in luck. Even more than the ESFJ, she may play mother hen. The difference is there will be more malice in he cockblocking.
Drives/Needs: To compete, organize, and schedule self and others (Te) while remaining aware of practicalities (Si)
Examples: Judith Sheindlin (Judge Judy), Condi Rice (Condi could also be ISTJ).
INFP 5.5% (4.0%)
The poetic and sensitive type. Little or no “negging” needed, indeed overdoing that may just hurt her. Bars and clubs are not her natural hangout, if she goes it is to be with friends. More dreamy and less earthy than the ISFP, will look for a deeper connection.
Drives/Needs: Deep inner connection with self and others (Fi) based on imagination and creativity (Ne).
Example: Princess Diana
ENFJ 4.5% (2.0%)
Like the ESFJ, she may be protective of the group. As an NF, she marches more to her own beat, and may be less enthrall to group opinion.
Drives/Needs: Connect with and inspire others (Fe) using creativity and imagination (Ne).
Example: Oprah Winfrey
INFJ 3.0% (1.5%)
The type that may seem hard to understand, yet can understand you. A mixture of otherworldiness and practicality. Can probably spot, and does not appreciate, the players.
Drives/Needs: Gain insights into self and others (Ni) and use that to help others (Fe)
Examples: suggestions please. I would have put Mother Theresa here but Celebrity Types puts her as ISFJ and that may be a better guess. Brightstormyday suggested Amelie, as played by Audrey Tautou.
ESTP 3.0% (5.5%)
Like the ESFP, only brutally pragmatic. Be careful.
Drives/Needs: Seek new experiences and excitement (Se) and understand and put them to practical use (Ti).
ENTP 3.0% (5.0%)
The clever type that loves to outplay the player. Even more than the ENFP, probably likes cleverness in her suitors.
Drives/Needs: Seek to engage others with possibilities and new ideas (Ne) understand and put them to practical use (Ti)
Example: Celebrity Types suggested Camille Paglia.
ISTP 2.5% (7.5%)
The tomboy. Supposedly the nerd-boy dream; she likes guns and stuff. Dressed nicely she may look like an ISFP, but she may not bother with such pretense.
Drives/Needs: Understand the physical world, learn how things work (Ti) seek out new experiences and adventure (Se).
Examples: Danica Patrick, Kari Byron (based on her Mythbusters gun-totin’ activities, though she could also be ISFP)
ENTJ 2.5% (4.5%)
The Amazon, DC lawyer, corporate finance chick. If you like that kind of thing, good luck. She does offer the chance to practice “negs” and handling shit tests.
Drives/Needs: Compete in and organize the world (Te) based on clear inner vision (Ni).
Examples: Margaret Thatcher, Ann Coulter
INTJ 2.0% (4.0%)
They seem to love bad boys. If you have an inner asshole, let him out. If you do not have an inner asshole then move on. Probably wants a mean ESTP man.
Drives/Needs: Seek moments of inspiration while creating a clear inner vision of the world (Ni) argue that vision from evidence and implement it by self, or by directing others.
Examples: Ayn Rand, Hilary Clinton
INTP 2.0% (5.5%)
Nerd-boy meet nerd-girl. She is still a woman, but may better tolerate discussions of Star Trek, Star Wars, and other nerdy pursuits. May appear cool and unresponsive (especially compared to ExFP types). May be sensitive beneath that cool logical exterior. Along with the INFP, probably very easygoing and undemanding.
Drives/Needs: Seek to understand systems and processes, use that understanding to explain to others (Ti) while using leaps of imagination and creativity (Ne).
Examples: Suggestions? Celebrity Types have Kari Byron, but I am not buying.
I love that Celebrity Types has Osama Bin Laden as INFJ. Yes “FJ” not INTJ. They also have Mystery, Marilyn Manson, and Hitler as INFJ.
I was surprised how high ENFP showed, and the relatively small number of ESFP (I guess they make up for it in volume)