A lot of my posts seem to veer towards some level of dreariness or unhappy TMI. So in order to brighten up your weekend (and mine), I provide some minor successes in my dealings with those wascally women. These are my version of the PUA “Field reports.”
My First bit of Game (maybe):
I was a very shy, dorky, youthful looking, early twenties picture of beta (or even omega). I was in my first office job, finding my feet professionally and socially (professionally happened much quicker). The office had many young women in the prime of their attractiveness. Any flirting they did was more for the fun of my embarrassment than any possible attraction. Actually such flirting was rare as I was to them the invisible man.
One of those young things needed a favor from me. I forget the details but she wanted something that while part of my job was not my primary function. She wanted it now and not later as “protocol” would suggest. In other words, she wanted to jump to the top of the line.
She approached my desk, leaned in close and let her hand rest on my arm. She performed the short ritual of small talk and then got to what was on her mind. In a slightly breathless voice (she was good) she asked for the favor. She left her hand on my arm and her eyes were full of promise. My nerd-boy brain was spinning and I am sure slight flush suffused my boyish face.
While I certainly enjoyed the experience I understood that it was all a game. I paused (all the better to keep her hand and eye contact) and then told her “No!” I was apologetic and told her I would complete the task by the end of the day (as would have happened for anyone else). It was her turn to pause. There was a moment of surprise (shock?) and then she whipped her hand away. Of course I did not score a lay, I did not even score a kiss, but I did begin my slow journey towards been a man.
I remained a shy and dorky guy. I did not magically become the sex god of the office. I may have detected some mild increase in female respect. In the end little changed, but I did learn a lesson: A man may be an unassuming chump but he does not have to be a stupid chump.
The “Alpha” Chick:
This one is a bit stranger. I am not sure I really understand how it all happened.
She was extraverted, social, and good-looking. She was not hot-babe, but was attractive enough to have plenty of options. For a brief time, I was one of those options.
We met during the collision of two groups. I was with a work crowd and she was with friends. Both groups were mixed male and female. With the shuffling of people, we ended up sitting together. We talked about our respective work, but it was in a more personal (trials and tribulations) way instead of shop talk. She did more of the talking but I was able to get many laughs from her. I cannot say that I ran game but I was attracted and wanted her to feel the same. My guess is that her openness and chattiness (she may not have realized that she, not I, was carrying the conversational load) helped to overcome my shyness and uncertain game (it is only beta guys that need to think about stuff like “kino escalation.”).
We ended up having sex that night. It was my second same-night lay but felt less accidental than the first (the less said about that the better). She was very sensuous and eager without being aggressive. In our conversations before and after she mentioned my “depth” and “intensity.” You can make what you want of that; I am prepared to accept them as good (non beta chump) things.
We did meet (and sleep with) each other again but realized that we were a bit too different. We broke up on friendly terms. Some cynics will say that I was “played.” Perhaps I was, but seeing as I enjoyed the experience I say “So what?” I can always console myself that I was worthy of been played, so I can’t be that bad. Some women want a bit-of-rough on the side; maybe she wanted a bit-of-mild on the side. In any case, I enjoyed the experience and I hope she did too.
I am not sure there is one. Maybe it is that sexual attraction can happen in unexpected ways. Perhaps I just like talking about it. : )