The world of dating and attraction explained in neat graphs.
Women must be hot, men must be cool (alpha).
Men choose primarily based on looks while woman choose on status. The two graphs below show that difference. Given enough confidence even a fairly unattractive man can have dating success. A man lacking confidence is dead in the water no matter how good looking he is. No matter how confident she is an unattractive woman will have a difficult time dating.
Above a certain point better looks do not really benefit a man. They may indeed cause problems (too-good-to-be-true response from women, jealousy response from other males, etc.). A woman cannot be too good looking. Any jealousy response by other women is more than offset by an increased attraction response by men. It is true that some men will have the too-good-to-be-true response and not approach, but such men are beta and thus not what she wants anyway.
Of vital importance to a man is his confidence. Just as a woman cannot be too beautiful, man cannot be too confident. Above a certain point extra confidence does not really help a woman. It probably does not hurt, but it does not really provide an advantage.
The socially inept, the dorky, the shy, all have problems dating. However women are given greater allowance. The shy woman will receive offers, the shy man will likely have his few haltingly presented offers rejected.
Women must be hot enough. Men must be better than.
While every man wants the hottest girl he can, the male attraction response is mostly thresholded. If a woman is hot enough he will be attracted. A man going home with least beautiful woman from a room full of beauties will not be unhappy. A nine is a nine, even if the rest were tens.
While every woman has a level of alphaness below which she will not go, female attraction is mostly comparative. A woman going home with least alpha guy in a room full of alphas will not be happy. An alpha nine is an alpha zero if the rest were alpha tens. She is likely to go home alone because she will not feel attraction for the “lowly” alpha nine.
[Of course the man would still prefer to be going home with the ten, but he will not be unhappy with the nine.]
Men are linear, women are exponential.
Men’s response to increasing female attractiveness is mostly linear. A small increase in attractiveness will bring a small increase in male attraction response. Females, due to hypergamy, have a skewed response. Below a certain level of alphaness a man holds no interest for them. Increases in alphaness while below this point will not be rewarded with any increase in female attraction. Above this point, as he rises up the alpha scale each extra point brings accelerating female response.
[An alpha six will scrape by, an alpha seven will do OK, an alpha eight will have lots of choices, an alpha nine will drown in estrogen, an alpha ten owns the world.]