Especially for the Chicks III (Matchmaking edition Remixed)

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Utter silliness alert

I did warn you…

Last chance…

This is just for fun. I have to balance out the TMI posts with something more cheerful.

You have very special mission today. It is your task to pair off one of the Roissy women with your tireless (and some would say tiresome) blogger.

You can choose to go for (un)wedded bliss, you can choose for cruelty (to her or me), you can choose because you like crazy science experiments.

As this is an abstract exercise, so you can discount that some of the women may already be married or otherwise occupied with another man. This is just for fun. Feel free to discuss this amongst yourselves in the comments section.

The poll shows the choices in alphabetical order. Apologies to any who felt they should be included but were not, there is a write in section. You can vote for more than one woman (e-harems rock). You can vote for yourself (if you are into that sort of thing). I cannot see who cast a particular vote, so vote your conscience. Indeed I cannot see who voted at all, so vote early (if not often).

Yes, I realize that there are more choices than readers.

Void where prohibited. Contents may settle during travel. May not be available in all locations. Service charge may apply. Editors decision is final.

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Default <3 <3 <3

Update:
I decided to bring this back. I removed some choices because they no longer post at Roissy or elsewhere (that I have seen). I added some who I did not know at the time I created the original post.

Removed

db
kim

Added

(alphabetical order)
anoukange
brightstormyday
jmkaye
LILGRL (unforgivably excluded from the original)
Rebekah
sdaedalus

Original post date:Sep 22, 2009
This Update: Mar 01, 2010

The Results Before Additions

Person

Votes

chic noir 4
A sex bot (a la Fifth Horseman) 3
Lady Raine 2
Ghost of Nicole 2
pupu 2
Bhetti 2
lovelysexybeauty 2
Hope 2
FeministX 2
Sofia 2
Poetry of the Flesh 2
Dana 1
alias clio 1
aoefe 1

202 Responses to “Especially for the Chicks III (Matchmaking edition Remixed)”

  1. chic noir Says:

    You have me afraid to read this post but I did vote. Who the heck set you up with Lady Raine??? NO NO NO that won’t do.

  2. chic noir Says:

    If I can’t have you, I think Pupu would appreciate you.

  3. Default User Says:

    @chic
    Thank you chic. And I thought nobody would reply. At least someone out there has a sense of fun.

    I am fearful of looking at the results, especially with your Lady Raine mention.
    [I wonder what happened her. Maybe she and Roissy got together after all. Maybe his site will become Roissy in PA]

    In Pupu’s case it would not be her I was paired with, but some third party that passed on messages back and forth.

  4. chic noir Says:

    In Pupu’s case it would not be her I was paired with, but some third party that passed on messages back and forth
    lol

    I think one of three things happened to lady raine:

    1. Roissy has her chained to his bed.
    2. Willard has now made her his house wife.Notice how Willard is largly absent for Roissy’s place as of late.*
    3. This one is serious, she is away somewhere seeking treatement for her issues or has been put on medication and is now “normal”.

    *#2 but why is willard always over at aoefe’s place trying to game her?

  5. Sofia Says:

    Default,

    I voted!

    But I think it would be fun if you could somehow manage to do with with all the female commenters, and the primary male commenters at Roissy.

    Dibs on Keith!

  6. chic noir Says:

    @Sofia- I will let you have Keith only because I have my default back.

  7. chic noir Says:

    Who the hell voted for femx???

  8. Default User Says:

    @Sofia
    I am took a deep breath and checked the results. I have to say I am a bit hurt. You say that you voted but yet I see zero votes for Sofia. Did I misspell it your name? I am I unworthy of even humorous e-consideration? I am very hurt, very, very hurt.

    Originally, I was going to do this for the male commenters but I realized the list would be long, or I would exclude someone I should have included. There are a lot of male commenters. It would be difficult to decide whom to include. There are many regulars that post less often. What should the cut-off be?

    I was going to try an include all the female commenters. I went back to Roissy and scanned through the posting names, but the list was getting long. I already have more choices on the poll than readers it seemed stupid to add more. You can always write someone in though.

    I may do the male list (which Roissy poster would you most like to be with) later but It is more effort than I want to spend right now. Although I do think it would be fun.

    PS:
    Keith is yours. Are you and A.J. Travis irreconcilable?

  9. Default User Says:

    @Chic
    Lady Raine and aoefe had a sort of yin/yang thing. Together they would cancel each other out. Willard is obviously going for the noise-cancellation headphone effect. Willard is smart.

  10. Default User Says:

    @Chic
    I see you are in the lead. Well done.

    Regarding FemiX and Lady Raine I did say that “you can choose for cruelty (to her or me).” I guess I have more cruel readers than I expected. I wonder who they were. I suspect the did-not-vote-for-herself Sofia. But that is just a hunch.

    Of course, maybe Roissy stopped by. Maybe Femi and Lady voted for themselves. I think I will stop thinking about this.

  11. David Alexander Says:

    For what it’s worth, I figured Chic was the best choice. She’s the right age for a budding alpha, and unlike Sofia, she’s won’t intellectually dominate you. Aoefe is a bit old for you, and like Bhetti, she needs an ever stronger alpha to keep her in line.

    Plus, Chic’s Ethiopian heritage will ensure exotic looking mixed race babies. :-)

  12. David Alexander Says:

    Feminist X would be the ultimate punishment given her desire for men only extends to his ability to provide for her and the family she desires. Lady Raine is one of those girls who seems interesting in the short-term, but would drive you up a wall if you ever discovered that your sperm was stupid enough to find her eggs…

  13. Sofia Says:

    Default,

    I voted for pupu. You both have an affinity for graphs and statistics.

    “Fuck, marry, kill” compiled a rather comprehensive list of male commenters. I’ll see if I can find it for you.

    Keith is where my heart belongs. A.J. Travis was a young mistake. Mmmm, Keith.

  14. Bhetti Says:

    it won’t let me vote. just like Americans.
    :P

    I pondered and pondered and didn’t know who to pair Default with. Kept finding fault with every woman. But settled on chic as well.

  15. Default User Says:

    @David Alexander

    LOL on Lady Raine. Now there is a set of eggs I do not want to have scrambled for breakfast. As for Femi, she will have to (and no doubt gladly) look for someone else to be that provider.

  16. Default DJ Says:

    @David Alexander

    I would have chosen chic for you and for the same reasons (except for the mixed race thing).

    Maybe I should be offended that you think Sofia could “intellectually dominate [me].” Anyway, an alpha (even one in training) should never worry too much about what his girl thinks, even if it is Kant. Just remember the alpha refrain: “Shopping, Kant, Kan’t be bothered to listen to any of that.”

    An alpha in training should target chicks like aoefe and Bhetti. Much the same way that you want to take your tennis lessons from a pro. When you can handle them, you can handle anything.

    I also love that you mentioned aoefe’s age. She does not come here often. Maybe she will hear of that comment and feel the need to put in a (youthful) appearance. As some of you know, I love the feisty side of aoefe.

    [I suppose I should put a smiley on that post]

  17. Sofia Says:

    For the record Default, all my boyfriends loved my take on Kant. Actually, I’m taking a break from reading Plato’s Crito right now. I read Euthyphro & Apologia earlier today. Ah, so productive without the blog. So liberating!

  18. Default User Says:

    @Sofia

    all my boyfriends loved my take on Kant.

    So do you think David Alexander’s “intellectually dominate” analysis is correct? :)

  19. Default User Says:

    @Sofia

    You both have an affinity for graphs and statistics

    Well that is romantic. I feel all a-tingle. I bet she does too. Stat/Graph game, I would never have thought of that.

    But that still does not answer the question of why you did not vote you. It is the Kant thing isn’t it?

  20. Default User Says:

    @Bhetti

    it won’t let me vote. just like Americans

    Really? I don’t have much control over it once I have created the poll. I certainly did not set any exclusions.

    well except for banning your IP address.

  21. Sofia Says:

    I think I could intellectually dominate you when it comes to Kant, not when it comes to many other things, probably technology related. I’m a Luddite.

    I didn’t vote for me because Pupu is a better match, objectively speaking. I am all about the objectivity. Plus, betas make me weak-kneed; I don’t like this shift to “Alphadom”.

    I’m dating a very cute Beta right now. He even parts his hair on the side, and yes I like him, and no he does not have money (DA!).

  22. Default User Says:

    @Sofia

    A very nice and diplomatic answer.

    It seems many people don’t like my shift to alpahdom. Of course, you are looking at the work in progress and not the final finished article. If a few people like the old me then that offers the perfect fallback in the case of failure. So what can go wrong?

  23. Default DJ Says:

    @Sofia

    I’m dating a very cute Beta right now. He even parts his hair on the side, and yes I like him, and no he does not have money (DA!).

    Poor and beta. Parts his hair to the side (heaven forfend). You do need help and fast.

    How should an alpha part his pair. Spikey like mine?

  24. David Alexander Says:

    Keith is where my heart belongs.

    I believe he’s your secret alpha. If Keith happened to live in the GTA, I’d start suspecting that he was the “ex” who visited the other night…

    LOL on Lady Raine

    I’ve met a few women that I could theoretically* have sex with in real life, but I’d never want in any long-term form. There’s a girl like that at work, and while she’s average, she has tits and ass worth grabbing, pink nails, and penchant for high heels. The downside is that she’s a bitchy Jamaican girl who needs ultra game to tame in the long-term.

    *Yes, if the opportunity developed and I had little to fear from her pregnancy with my child.

    I would have chosen chic for you and for the same reasons

    Poor Chic, I think she can do better than me. I don’t think she’s enjoy being a railfan’s wife… :-)

    Plus, she’s taller than me sans heels. With heels, she becomes a giant, and I become a mere munchkin in her world.

    Maybe I should be offended that you think Sofia could “intellectually dominate [me].”

    Her ultra high IQ puts her in the Queen realm for me, and for a smarter man like yourself, she’d find you to be lacking compared to former boyfriends of far greater intellect.

  25. Default User Says:

    @David Alexander

    Her ultra high IQ puts her in the Queen realm for me, and for a smarter man like yourself, she’d find you to be lacking compared to former boyfriends of far greater intellect.

    Sofia was very nice, sweet and diplomatic on this topic. You lay it on the line, strong and clear. That is the difference between the guys and the girls.

    PS:
    I think you said you were about 5’8″. That would make you a bit taller than I am. Bring back platform shoes that’s what I say.
    {yeah I know some smart ass is going to say [little kid voice]but if every one wore platform shoes then everyone would be taller[end little kid voice. [alpha voice]Look bud, I know. It was a joke. Don’t make me come over there[end alpha voice]}

  26. David Alexander Says:

    I’m dating a very cute Beta right now. He even parts his hair on the side, and yes I like him, and no he does not have money (DA!).

    You lie! Unless you have some secret plot to make him into an alpha. You’re far too pretty to date betas…

  27. Default User Says:

    @David Alexander
    The social-proof this “beta” receives from been around an attractive woman like Sofia will help his journey into alphadom. You see, she cannot even date betas if she wants to. It is just so perfect. The Roissy and David Alexander worlds collide and create something new and interesting. Perhaps we could call them AlphaBet men.

  28. Sofia Says:

    You lie! Unless you have some secret plot to make him into an alpha. You’re far too pretty to date betas…

    You seem much more positive these days, DA. Anything in particular?

    Though, no, he is very Beta. Part of the attraction lies with his very thick German accent, so although he is very shy, and has somewhat of a nervous countenance (one might even say, a nervous tic), I can forgive him. He’s also very, very smart & handsome as well. The handsomeness is juxtaposed with dorky clothes. He showed up to the first date wearing pants that were too short, and he walks very rigidly with his hands straight down by his sides. I find it all very endearing, and cute, but the accent provides the sexual attraction.

  29. Sofia Says:

    The social-proof this “beta” receives from been around an attractive woman like Sofia will help his journey into alphadom.

    You guys flatter me so. I think you overestimate my attractiveness. My goal isn’t to turn him into an Alpha. Like I’ve said many times before, these terms are ridiculous and not clearly delineated, and can never be. It’s all very situational. High IQ and autistic nerd brains do it for me, and that’s interpreted as very insular and dorky by many other women.

    German Beta also shook me hand so cutely to end the first date! These things make him very attractive to me. I wouldn’t want him to turn into a sex fiend.

  30. chic noir Says:

    Poor Chic, I think she can do better than me. I don’t think she’s enjoy being a railfan’s wife…

    Well I did have a crush on once upon a time and remember I like to travel too.

    unlike Sofia, she’s won’t intellectually dominate you.
    Wow, chic is as dumb as a bag of broken crayons… Thanks DA :)

  31. Default User Says:

    @Sofia

    I agree there can be a lot of dogma regarding alpha/beta. Mostly I was having fun.

    You perhaps underestimate your attractiveness. From your pictures, you are attractive enough that most men will notice. So, don’t be too modest. A little is modesty is nice but don’t over do it.
    [the above was serious commentary and not e-flirting]

  32. Default DJ Says:

    @Sofia

    I wouldn’t want him to turn into a sex fiend.

    No that is your job!
    [the above was not serious commentary but might count as e-flirting]

  33. Default User Says:

    @Chic

    Wow, chic is as dumb as a bag of broken crayons… Thanks DA

    He is a charmer isn’t he?

    I have seen him drop expert negs on aoefe too.

  34. David Alexander Says:

    You seem much more positive these days, DA. Anything in particular?

    Athena and I are talking again on a limited basis, and my family has some degree of what will happen financially in the short to medium term. Plus, extra hours at work have allowed me to build up my savings, and I managed to sneak away on a little roadgeeking trip last week. And I lucked out with somebody to talk to at work for the past two weeks so I didn’t feel as lonely. So I’ve managed to blow off some steam in the real world before coming here to tease everybody. :-)

    Anything else you’d like to know? :-p

    Though, no, he is very Beta.

    There’s a part of me knowing that this eats away at years of built up “theory”, but then that’s the fun of staying out of the pool at Roissy’s place. Although, there’s this part of me that wonders if you’ll stay past the short-term even if he meets your intellectual needs. Hell, this whole thing conflicts with the ex-boyfriend sex scene of a few days ago…

  35. David Alexander Says:

    I wouldn’t want him to turn into a sex fiend.

    As I like to say, some women like having private sex fiends. Remember, there’s a reason why a penis can go from small and cute, to big, strong, thick, and masculine. :-)

    Well I did have a crush on once upon a time and remember I like to travel too.

    Aww, how cute. :-) And to think, we live in the same metro area. :-P

    Put it this way, are you willing to visit the rural countryside of Europe to ride some dinky branch lines or watch me take photos? Are you willing to visit small cities to ride the same train in a different place? Are you willing to visit Paris? :-)

  36. Default User Says:

    @David Alexander
    I am glad to hear that things are going a bit better.

    Hell, this whole thing conflicts with the ex-boyfriend sex scene of a few days ago

    You see, you don’t have to lose all cynicism. Watch what they do, never listen to what they say.
    [Alas, thanks to the white-paged blog I cannot read about that now. I am sure it was good ;)]

  37. Default User Says:

    David asked:

    Are you willing to visit Paris?

    DA: We’ll always have Paris. We didn’t have, we lost it until you came to Default’s blog. We got it back last night.
    Chic: When I said I would never leave you.
    DA: And you never will. But I’ve got a job to do, too. Where I’m going, you can’t follow. What I’ve got to do, you can’t be any part of. Chic, I’m no good at being noble, but it doesn’t take much to see that the problems of three little people don’t amount to a hill of beans in this crazy world. Someday you’ll understand that. Now, now… Here’s looking at you kid.

  38. Sofia Says:

    Hell, this whole thing conflicts with the ex-boyfriend sex scene of a few days ago

    That boyfriend I dated for two months, if dating constitutes “fucking”. My two other actual long-term relationships (1+ years) were with guys most of you would consider Beta. And yes, I’ve had an active sex life with all of my boyfriends; I didn’t give all my physical attentions to that Alpha in question.

  39. David Alexander Says:

    You see, you don’t have to lose all cynicism. Watch what they do, never listen to what they say.

    Let’s see how far this relationship goes. She may say that she wants a beta, but judging from the sex with her ex-boyfriend, she seems to have the passion and desire for an alpha.

  40. Sofia Says:

    Who said betas are bad in bed? It’s not hard to be “sexually adept”, you guys. You don’t understand half of the work involved in seducing me is all intellectual.

  41. Sofia Says:

    Alpha ex in question discussed Chomsky with me at length before he made a physical move.

  42. David Alexander Says:

    Who said betas are bad in bed?

    Um, the Internets?

    You don’t understand half of the work involved in seducing me is all intellectual.

    I’m tempted to argue that her high IQ is really proxy for the fact that she’s a sex robot. Maybe some type of alien from another planet. Or maybe an angel. :)

  43. aoefe Says:

    DA you are on a time out – and you know why.

    Default I do visit you, I’m just very good at disguises. I don’t have an impressive wig collection for nothing. ;)

    I think the woman for you has not yet appeared, although if Hope were single it could be her. All lovely ladies at Roissy but I suspect your true love has yet to arive.

    Chic I think Tupac is your man you haven’t realized it yet (nor has he). Sofia I’m not sure Keith is for you – I think Roissy is more your style truthfully. Pupu is meant for Maurice (if he were single). Definitely Ghost of Nicole and Obsidian. Clio is taken but Racer-X might be a close second. Lovely Sexy Beauty and Lucifer = she’s the one who’ll get him out of his hooker love. Poetry of Flesh and XPlat for shizzle. Willard and Lady Raine (what did you mean by noise cancelling head phones??). DA and Dana for sure. I pretend to be his boss but Dana could really carry it off.

    Aoefe has a passion for one, but she will not mention his name. Just sayin…

  44. David Alexander Says:

    DA you are on a time out – and you know why.

    I’m a good boy!

    I don’t have an impressive wig collection for nothing.

    I want to see your wigs. :)

    It may well be worth the eleventy billion dollars for a flight from New York…

    DA and Dana for sure. I pretend to be his boss but Dana could really carry it off.

    I prefer women who don’t reek of racist gin.

  45. Ferdinand Bardamu Says:

    I shalt confess – it was I who voted for FeministX. *smirks evilly*

  46. Default User Says:

    @Sofia

    Alpha ex in question discussed Chomsky with me at length before he made a physical move.

    Hmmm! A cunning linguist?

  47. Default User Says:

    @David Alexander

    I’m tempted to argue that her high IQ is really proxy for the fact that she’s a sex robot.

    There was one vote for the sex-bot, so maybe she did vote for herself after all.

  48. Default User Says:

    @aoefe though that:

    I think the woman for you has not yet appeared

    Well you were supposed to work with what you were given, just like real life. Other than that cop out, not a bad analysis.

    what did you mean by noise canceling head phones??

    That you and Lady Raine are opposites. You would cancel each other out leaving him in blessed peace.
    [Noise canceling headphones work by creating a noise the exact opposite of the one they are trying to cancel –1 minus 1 = 0]

    On Hope: There is too much dark-side in me.

    On Poetry and xsplat: Good, but I think you two would be better suited. He is strongly into the D/s dynamic. He might give you just what you want (and need).

    Aoefe has a passion for one, but she will not mention his name. Just sayin…

    Oh go on, give him up. David Alexander, Lurker, or . . . wait . . . It is Keith. That is why you are trying to break up Sofia and him. Of course, there is always xsplat, mentioned above.

  49. Default User Says:

    @Ferdinand Bardamu
    LOL That was evil. Total and unending pain for both of us. Perfect, absolutely perfect.

  50. Default User Says:

    @Everyone.
    Thanks to all for making this a fun thread.

    Thanks especially to chic (she started the ball rolling), Sofia (for coming out of retirement) and to David Alexander (for avoiding the third rail long enough to comment).

    I am glad that one of the lighter threads gained some notice compared to the darker TMI stuff. I am sorry that many of you seem too chicken to vote. I really cannot see who voted what way, or even who voted at all.

    I have not checked the results but I am presuming that chic is still in the lead. Well done chic. To the losers: you had your chance. You could have voted, you could have had your friends swamp the poll but you did not. Epic Fail. Of course, the fact that you might not care means the Epic Fail is mine. Ahh well! No one said this blogging thing would be easy.

  51. David Alexander Says:

    David Alexander (for avoiding the third rail long enough to comment)

    I’m more of an overhead catenary foamer. Trains with pantographs look so much better. :-)

  52. Hope Says:

    Too chicken to vote, huh.

    I voted for all options. Hah!

  53. Default User Says:

    @Hope
    Your bravery inspires me. That still leaves chic in the lead but at least you are now in the running. ;)

  54. Default User Says:

    @David Alexander

    I’m more of an overhead catenary foamer

    Well just keep avoiding the current (and open windows[work safe music video])

  55. Default User Says:

    @David Alexander
    I had heard the song I linked in my earlier comment before (Queen’s “Keep Passing the Open Windows”). The lyrics are more serious and deeper than I thought.

    Hammer to Fall has a more rousing sound.

  56. chic noir Says:

    Aoefe Chic I think Tupac is your man you haven’t realized it yet (nor has he).

    *DEAD FAINT*
    Why aoefe why?
    Tupac doesn’t eat. How can I be with a man who doesn’t eat???

    Sofia I’m not sure Keith is for you – I think Roissy is more your style truthfully

    *just as bhetti MD brought chic around with some smelling salts aoefe uttered^^^*

    No no no Roissy is too tough for Sophia. She needs someone gentle like Keith.

    Clio is taken but Racer-X might be a close second.
    This may work. Racer-x would bring the freak out of clio.

    Pupu is meant for Maurice (if he were single).

    Oh yes I could see a single Maurice dating pupu. I can imagine the two on the subway snuggling close whispering sweat nothings in each others ear over a cup of scalding hot chocolate .

    The only women I can see who could handle roissy would be LR, Poetry of Flesh who put knots in him last week and Marcus ________.

  57. chic noir Says:

    ferdinand bardamu
    shalt confess – it was I who voted for FeministX. *smirks evilly*

    *chic shakes fist at ferdinand*
    why you sneaky buzzard.

    DA Put it this way, are you willing to visit the rural countryside of Europe to ride some dinky branch lines or watch me take photos?

    Yes, and will you stay with me as I go from one high fashion boutique to another.

    Are you willing to visit small cities to ride the same train in a different place? Yes, as long as the city is beautiful and relatively safe.

    Are you willing to visit Paris?

    I’ve been to Paris remember.

    This is all hypothetically speaking, as I am the default’s wife of course.

  58. Sofia Says:

    No no no Roissy is too tough for Sophia. She needs someone gentle like Keith.

    You have it the wrong way. Roissy is too gentle for me. Keith is a rough man, and that’s the way I like it. Growl.

  59. Default DJ Says:

    @Chic
    Pupu and Maurice: I could see that working.
    Roissy and Poetry: I am not sure if that would work. It might be poetic justice of some sort.
    Clio: How could you deny Tupac his true love. Racer X was nothing but a cheap sensationalist. I know you enjoyed his writing (you always loved a good lick of prose) but come on!
    Sofia: I think she needs to be taken I hand. I am not sure Roissy, for all his charm, is up to that task. She claims to like beta men, but DA and I know different.

  60. Default User Says:

    @Sofia
    I suspect that deep down the R-man is a romantic.

  61. chic noir Says:

    sophia You have it the wrong way. Roissy is too gentle for me. Keith is a rough man, and that’s the way I like it. Growl.

    keith rough? He always seems so sweet and meek. Maybe you bring that rough side out of him.

    default I suspect that deep down the R-man is a romantic
    He is, and I believe the one woma(e)n he showed that side to didn’t appreciate it so he became biter.

  62. Hope Says:

    “I believe the one woma(e)n he showed that side to didn’t appreciate it so he became biter.”

    I don’t believe that for a moment. The J in my INFJ coming out here, so be warned!

    Roissy strikes me as a quite selfish and evil person who might have masqueraded as a nice guy in the past because that’s what he was taught to do. He was suppressing his true dark nature. Then he found game and felt like it’s the best thing ever — it allows him to be his true nasty self and get tons of hot women. He revels in being “bad,” and he enjoys skewering people who disagree with him in any way. Twisted and sadistic man, he is.

    My man is a good and moral man who got hurt by several women who didn’t appreciate his sensitivity and kindness. Then he studied game in college because his selfish friends were all into it. He hated game and rejected it, because he doesn’t want to just get laid and can’t abandon his core principles. He didn’t think he could ever find a woman who appreciates his good nature, so he decided to just be celibate for life. He does not want to hurt anyone, even the black-hearted people, even though he knows how to fend them off and protect himself.

    Good man for me all the way. Who among the Roissy readers is actually, truly kind-hearted? Not very many, I’d wager.

  63. Default User Says:

    Hope warned that:

    The J in my INFJ coming out here, so be warned!

    I love that moment when sweet NFJs decide they need to drop a nuclear load. :)

    On this, I tend more towards chic’s view than your view. Although he has a cruel streak, a lot of what he does is for show.

    He is definitely a feeling not a thinking type. When he lashes out it is with the broad sweep of emotion and not the scalpel cuts of logic. Therefore, it is certainly possible that he has suffered an emotional black eye at some point. DC and the women that populate it cannot make for a happy match up with someone who has a romantic streak.

    Who among the Roissy readers is actually, truly kind-hearted? Not very many, I’d wager.

    More than you would imagine I guess. At least most are not as bad as they seem.

    A lot of Roissy is guys blowing off steam about a variety of things, amongst which are women. Even Arpagus, when you looked beneath his pro-rape rhetoric, seemed to have a sensitive side (his ideas came from a place of hurt, not spite). David Alexander harly seems cruel. Maurice is always nice. Obsidian has offered help and encouragement to many. Gunslinger said something about men offering each other more hugs and support (I do not remember the exact quote, so I hope I am not mischaracterizing it). If you look you will probably find lots of little moments of help and encouragement been offered. It is a very rough and tumble place but not quite as bad as you think.

    And as a former poster there, I am just a bit hurt (my sensitive side).

  64. Hope Says:

    Although he has a cruel streak, a lot of what he does is for show.

    I’ve been reading there since 2007, and I’ve seen enough of Roissy lashing out at various posters, like chic noir and others. You don’t have to look very hard to find a ton of his terrible personal attacks which have nothing to do with logic or rationality. Many times when someone merely disagrees with his ideas, he makes a nasty comeback.

    Sure, there might be hyperbole in it, and some of what he says might be for “show.” But a truly good person would never do such things for entertainment. He openly advocates using other people for his own pleasure. He makes fun of other people for his own amusement. Someone who is out to gratify his/her ego would have very little regard for others’ feelings, and that’s precisely what happens over there.

    Do you really believe him to be a moral, upstanding man in real life? I don’t. I am no longer so naive about the evils that exist in blackened hearts. He might have a bunch of girls eating out of his hands with how “alpha” he is, but to me, he and those like him just make me sad. Sad because of how much pain and evil they delight in bringing into this world. Sad because they make other men admire them, make them think that the negative path is the best path to walk.

    If you look you will probably find lots of little moments of help and encouragement been offered. It is a very rough and tumble place but not quite as bad as you think.

    Lately there is just so much negativity there. The crap that Welmer wrote against me, or the junk lurker says to the ladies there, and the women just sit there and take it. Frankly that’s why I stopped posting again. Why invite that kind of nastiness onto myself?

    I have nothing against some of the posters who aren’t deliberately cruel to others, but they are the minority. You’ve only named a handful, yourself. Yes, every one of these men have been hurt. But who hasn’t been hurt in love? Seriously, name one person who has hit puberty and has never gotten their heart stomped on.

    People have a choice in their actions. There is the expression, “Every saint has a past and every sinner has a future.” They could choose to not act this way despite their past. And yet they continue down this path of ugliness, selfishness, egotism. Darkness. They are, quite honestly, no better than the self-entitled women that they insult and disparage on a regular basis.

    Pain and suffering are facts of life. How we respond to these things is a test of our character. If, after getting hurt, you continue to perpetuate the cycle of pain, you are no better than the people who hurt you. Claiming and holding onto these past pains as excuses to self-righteously use and hurt others is wrong.

  65. Default User Says:

    @Hope
    Nuclear warhead two finds its target.

    I love when you are passionate about good and evil, light and dark. I am being serious and not joking. It is refreshing to see given that it is easy to fall into “who cares?” thinking.

    Hell hath no scorn like an NFJ furious.

  66. Bhetti Says:

    But a truly good person would never do such things for entertainment
    Black and White: Not Truly Good = Evil?
    He’s not a saint, but he’s not evil either. The threshold for evil is being set ridiculously low, here. You have found what works for you but you’re being judgemental based on feeling promiscuity and playing emotional games is inherently evil: both his intention and outcomes are happiness. People aren’t empty vessels; they are people with their own ideas and personalities. They decide what to do with and what to reject from his ideas. If they cannot think critically for themselves or understand how to reframe their values, then we know what is already in their hearts. There’s been a lot of positive that has come out of his ideas.

    Verbal abuse — especially online — means little. Roissy in real life is different, and his online persona is fulfilment of all that he can’t seem to articulate in real life. I’m not saying he’s a considerate, nice guy. I am saying he’s far from a criminal.

  67. Hope Says:

    Verbal abuse means little?

    Sigh, what times we live in.

  68. Hope Says:

    According to Morgan Scott Peck, who has served in the US Army and rose to the ranks of lieutenant colonel, chief of psychology at the Army Medical Center, an evil person:

    * Is consistently self deceiving, with the intent of avoiding guilt and maintaining a self image of perfection
    * Deceives others as a consequence of their own self deception
    * Projects his or her evils and sins onto very specific targets (scapegoats) while being apparently normal with everyone else (“their insensitivity toward him was selective”)
    * Commonly hates with the pretense of love, for the purposes of self deception as much as deception of others
    * Abuses political (emotional) power (“the imposition of one’s will upon others by overt or covert coercion”)
    * Maintains a high level of respectability and lies incessantly in order to do so
    * Is consistent in his or her sins. Evil persons are characterized not so much by the magnitude of their sins, but by their consistency
    * Is unable to think from the viewpoint of their victim (scapegoat)
    * Has a covert intolerance to criticism and other forms of narcissistic injury

  69. Bhetti Says:

    Verbal abuse means little?

    Sigh, what times we live in.
    I’m not a marker of the times. I think it’s a marker of the times that people mistake an insult for murder.

    Peck’s criteria can be applied to anyone who wishes to, eg:
    * Is consistently self deceiving, with the intent of avoiding guilt and maintaining a self image of perfection
    You think you’re better than 99% of the population by extension of the assertion of your own moral superiority.
    * Deceives others as a consequence of their own self deception
    And who doesn’t? The image we have of ourselves decides the image of what others see.
    * Projects his or her evils and sins onto very specific targets (scapegoats) while being apparently normal with everyone else (”their insensitivity toward him was selective”)
    You are selectively hating on the roissy ‘men’. Not just him, but plurals.
    * Commonly hates with the pretense of love, for the purposes of self deception as much as deception of others
    See above. What are your motivations for asserting your moral superiority?
    * Abuses political (emotional) power (”the imposition of one’s will upon others by overt or covert coercion”)
    You use very emotive language. AND you would change the world to suit your ideas.
    * Maintains a high level of respectability and lies incessantly in order to do so
    What is there to tell us that either roissy’s or your worldview are truer than the other?
    * Is consistent in his or her sins. Evil persons are characterized not so much by the magnitude of their sins, but by their consistency
    I’m pretty sure no matter how hard you try, you are still prone to comitting certain types of sins. I call them weaknesses, but if we call them evil, okay.
    * Is unable to think from the viewpoint of their victim (scapegoat)
    Any injury from verbal abuse is precisely due to roissy’s ability to think from the viewpoint of his victim.
    You’re showing inability to think from the viewpoint of the ‘victims’ of your judgement.
    * Has a covert intolerance to criticism and other forms of narcissistic injury
    You couldn’t tolerate criticism either. And roissy’s is not even covert (ha!).

    Now that I’ve made the above argument, don’t think I’m actually arguing you’re evil (and certainly not based on the criteria of a random psychologist — psychologists aren’t moral or religious authorities — who was talking even primarily about treatment of children not adults.). What I am trying to say is that if you want to convince yourself of it, you will. So the question to ask is: why do you want to believe he is evil?

  70. chic noir Says:

    hope Many times when someone merely disagrees with his ideas, he makes a nasty comeback.
    this is very true. he strikes as a moody person at times.

    Sure, there might be hyperbole in it, and some of what he says might be for “show.”
    exactly

    Lately there is just so much negativity there. The crap that Welmer wrote against me,
    Wow, I must’ve missed that, what did he write?

    or the junk lurker says to the ladies there

    Lurker is mentally disturbed. Pay him no attention. Anyone that has an online war with someone for 19 hrs str8 isn’t mentally sound.

    and the women just sit there and take it.

    Not chic noir, I’ve become pretty darn good at dishing it back. The problem is when a woman gets the best of him or looks like she will, he blocks her comments or puts her on comment moderation.

  71. Default DJ Says:

    @Bhetti

    Verbal abuse — especially online — means little.

    *cough*

  72. Default User Says:

    @Bhetti
    I agree that Roissy is probably not “evil.” However, he can certainly show an insensitive and cruel side. Do you really want to spend time defending him?

  73. chic noir Says:

    @hope- there are a number of women there who don’t take it.

    I can recall bhetti taking on about 10 commenters (at the same time) on an insult Islam thread. She handled herself very well. It’s where she got the name bhetti the machete

    . Aoefe and lil grl throw shit back too but they are less obvious. anony tries to always remain civil.
    poetry of flesh tied ro.issy in knots a few weeks ago. Marcus arulis(tp) went toe to toe with ro.issy too and he banned her or put her on comment moderation. Nicole, who probably gets more insults than any other female commenter can hold her own too.

    Femx sometimes stirs shit for fun.
    .

  74. chic noir Says:

    Verbal abuse — especially online — means little.

    depends on the sensitivty of the person being attacked.

  75. Default DJ Says:

    @Chic

    Aoefe . . . throw shit back too but they are less obvious.

    *cough*

  76. Default User Says:

    @Chic

    I can recall bhetti taking on about 10 commenters

    Oh Oh! She is here defending Roissy. Is this going to be century thread (100+ comments)?

  77. chic noir Says:

    @bhetti andhope –

    Now that I think of it, he seriously berated a male commenter a few days before xmas maybe even xmas eve. Now chic noir being the “wanna make everyone happy” soul that I am, I had to speak out. roissy retreated, so I guess I made him see the light on that occasion.

  78. chic noir Says:

    Oh default, it would be nice if we could pull you to a century before you leave us.

  79. Default User Says:

    @Chic

    Oh default, it would be nice if we could pull you to a century before you leave us.

    ma con amore

    But with love (not fights over Roissy and who is evil or not) please.

  80. Hope Says:

    You think you’re better than 99% of the population by extension of the assertion of your own moral superiority.

    No. I recognize that the “other side” so to speak sees themselves as the morally superior ones.

    The image we have of ourselves decides the image of what others see.

    Sometimes, but not always.

    You are selectively hating on the roissy ‘men’. Not just him, but plurals.

    I judge. It is within my rights to do so, just as they have done so to others, women and men included.

    What are your motivations for asserting your moral superiority?

    If you ask them, I am just the same as any other woman, not morally superior at all. I am more or less emulating the “men going their own way” folks, and I am a woman “going my own way.”

    You use very emotive language. AND you would change the world to suit your ideas.

    I use emotive language because I am an emotional person. I am not on a “crusade” to change the world. I am merely giving my opinions and presenting my perspective. You can take it or leave it.

    You’re showing inability to think from the viewpoint of the ‘victims’ of your judgement.

    Yep, I anticipated this one. I am judging them and therefore possibly “hurting” them. But I am not presenting my story as “fact,” just opinion. It’s my personal judgment, and you can agree with me or disagree with me. I am not attacking you for disagreeing with me. The same courtesy I extend to them is not extended back to me, and recognizing this, I avoid that crowd.

    You couldn’t tolerate criticism either. And roissy’s is not even covert (ha!).

    I don’t need to be the target of their criticism to see that their critiques of others are often less than civil and often do cause pain.

    why do you want to believe he is evil?

    Why does want enter into it? I am not a completely irrational person, though I do have my biases. Given sufficient evidence, I form tentative beliefs and judgments. These are by no means final. If he begins to show signs that he is not as bad as I have judged him, then I would revise my judgment.

    By the way, for a long time I did believe as others seem to believe, that Roissy is a romantic at heart and believes in true love. Over time, however, I have revised this view.

  81. Bhetti Says:

    I’m not defending him. I’m saying the answer to ‘is he evil?’ is ‘no.’ He’s not a murderer, a thief, a *insert REAL evil here*.

    His sins are being a manwhore and a verbal jerk to people online (and note, he doesn’t extend that to trolling forth upon their websites). Does that make him evil? No. Certainly we can’t do a proper psychoanalysis based on his online personality. Which seems narcissistic but there’re also occasional hints it’s a front. Basically, again, we’ll believe what we want to believe.

    People have even been evil online, trespassing on other’s websites and personal ‘space’. Anons on the chans mainly.

    Why do I want to believe he’s not evil? Because I’m strongly suspicious of doing this based on moral superiority and want to judge people for their actions mainly.

    Default:
    *cough*
    Diagnosis: Upper Respiratory Tract Obstruction of Psychological Origin. Just say it.

  82. Default User Says:

    @Chic

    he seriously berated a male commenter a few days before xmas maybe even xmas eve. Now chic noir being the “wanna make everyone happy” soul that I am, I had to speak out.

    What a scrooge he is. I am glad you (ghost of Christmas present) made him see the light.

    Roissy should have been home waiting for Santa Clause to leave him his lump of coal. :)

  83. Bhetti Says:

    Hope: I didn’t make it clear but I’m certainly not judging you, just exhibiting the ridiculousness of the criteria via the example of you. You seem to be genuinely kindhearted.

    I’m not romanticising roissy but I refuse to villify him as well.

  84. Default DJ Says:

    @Bhetti

    Diagnosis: Upper Respiratory Tract Obstruction of Psychological Origin. Just say it.

    Mischievous humor loses its mischief if it is delivered directly.

  85. Hope Says:

    I’m saying the answer to ‘is he evil?’ is ‘no.’

    See, now we’re playing semantics. People often accuse me of not using words “precisely” even though they know what I mean. If you prefer me to call him “dark” or “negative,” I’m happy to oblige.

  86. Default User Says:

    @Bhetti, Hope, Chic
    Roissy is an interesting character. His blog is interesting. Some of the commenters are interesting.

    He is not worth 100 comments dissecting him.

    He may be cruel but he probably is not a mass murderer. Let’s leave it at that OK.

  87. chic noir Says:

    default, what does your *cough* mean?

    agreement?

  88. Default User Says:

    @Chic

    default, what does your *cough* mean?
    agreement?

    I think that *cough* refers to a disagreement (on another blog) between the spikey haired one and both Bhetti and aoefe.

  89. Hope Says:

    He is not worth 100 comments dissecting him.

    Got you to stay at your blog for a bit longer though! :P

  90. chic noir Says:

    @default
    huh?

  91. Bhetti Says:

    But with love (not fights over Roissy and who is evil or not) please.
    But Daaaaaad. We were just having fun.

    Noone was fighting. ISN’T THAT RIGHT, HOPE?

  92. David Alexander Says:

    Who among the Roissy readers is actually, truly kind-hearted? Not very many, I’d wager.

    As much as I’d like to think so, I’m probably not really a truly kind-hearted person. I can have some dark thoughts in my mind from time to time, so I really can’t accept any compliment in that area. For me, it’s merely a mental fear and guilt that seems to act as the penalty brake on acting on those dark thoughts. After going on a tirade and dragging some of the female posters in the mud as bait to attract the male posters’ attention, I end up feeling guilty and somewhat remorseful over what I’ve said, even at times wondering if God will punish me for my evil words.

    As for game itself, even guys like PA come across as the type of man that I don’t want to be. Game just doesn’t make room for love, and Roissy theory really reduces it to a perpetual lust that requires a specific mindset. I just can’t see myself being that way, and the ultra-masculinity promoted by the Roissyists just get in the way of just being a fun and friendly goofball with one’s loved ones. Guys who run game aren’t the same types of males who take their nieces and nephew to the playground or take their widowed mothers out on a leisurely Sunday drive.

  93. Hope Says:

    Truth be told towards the tail end of this discussion I was paying more attention to my video game than to the thread of the conversation. >.>

    Sorry!

  94. Default User Says:

    Chic asked:

    @default huh?

    That was all a lighthearted reference to a discussion/argument on aoefe’s blog between Bhetti, aoefe and me. The two ladies and I disagreed. I do not want to rehash those arguments here, but you can see it on aoefe’s blog. The post was the one that was active last weekend (I think it was called nutin’ is nutin’ or something).
    Update
    The post was actually Roissys Younger Women. The “nutin'” post was the one that helped inspired my dump a chump post.

  95. Default User Says:

    David Alexander

    Guys who run game aren’t the same types of males who take their nieces and nephew to the playground or take their widowed mothers out on a leisurely Sunday drive.

    It sounds like you should avoid Roissy’s altogether and concentrate on being the man described above. There is absolutely nothing wrong with what you describe. There is nothing inherently unmasculine about caring for your mother or nieces and nephews. A man protects and nurtures those whom he cares for.

    However, there is something wrong with seeking attention for its own sake. There is no need to feel guilt over most Internet arguments but it is silly to generate those just for attention. If you want attention, you have your mother, nieces, and nephews. They will actually enjoy your attention, and you can enjoy theirs with out guilt.

    The “penalty brake” on acting on darker thoughts is what we call a conscience; it is not the worst thing to suffer. It is true that women do respond strongly to men who have some degree of sociopathy but you say you are not interested in gaming women.

    God may not punish you for “evil” words but he might punish you for masturbation. Think about that.

  96. Default User Says:

    @Bhetti, Hope

    Noone was fighting. ISN’T THAT RIGHT, HOPE?

    OK read “not fights over Roissy” in my previous comment as “not discussions over Roissy.”

    @Hope
    Not paying attention to an ongoing conversation. I am disappointed.

  97. Default User Says:

    My thoughts on the voting so far

    It seems that chic is in the lead. She is certainly a good choice. I am sure she is *doing a happy dance*

    I am disappointed that nobody thought me capable of handling Poetry of the Flesh. That would have made an interesting pairing (I did offer the choice of “crazy science experiments”).

    Likewise for Lady Raine. Who is to say that the sweet side of Default could not bring out the romantic soul buried deep within the titanium shell that is Lady Raine?

    Ferdinand Bardamu took heed of my option to “choose for cruelty.” In an act of exquisite evil he voted for FeministX. A very alpha move sir.

    aoefe copped out with some blather about how “the woman for [me] has not yet appeared.

    David Alexander was very hurtful when he suggested that Sofia would “intellectually dominate [me].”

    Sofia was even more hurtful when she agreed. Indeed Sofia showed such antipathy towards me, that she could not even vote for herself. She tried to soften that blow with some line about not liking my “shift to alphadom.” One click is all I wanted, one click to make me feel happy, just one little click. Phhffft!

    I was surprised that more people did not suggest Hope (she, however, may be breathing a sigh of relief). Perhaps you realized that my darker side might not be suitable for her.

    Hope did vote. She voted for all options. Always the optimist is Hope.
    [I guess “everyone” includes a vote for herself. Maybe my darker side is not so bad.]

    The votes for pupu did surprise me. Perhaps that is not a bad match. I guess pupu could collect the statistics and I could create the graphs.

    Bhetti claimed the poll would not accept her vote (maybe we need to get ACORN or Jesse Jackson on the job). However, she did suggest chic.

    I am not a doctor and am unlikely to have a high enough income for lovelysexybeauty, so it is probably a good thing she is not in the running.

    The sexbot also received one vote. That has appeal. Low maintenance, no drama, will submit to my authority (the on/off switch). They are (will be) expensive. Maybe I should put one of those Paypal boxes on the blog.

  98. Default User Says:

    @Bhetti and Hope

    Bhetti: Were you really not able to vote? Do I need to add one vote to chic’s total.

    Hope: Did you actually click the box for each candidate or did you just write in “Everyone.”

  99. Bhetti Says:

    I don’t know. Maybe I voted when not paying attention and it counted my vote.
    What I found wrong with each choice for you:
    aliasclio:
    she is too serious for you.
    aoefe:
    you two come into conflict over each other over what should be complimentary, so probably not to be. You also have no faith she likes you.
    Bhetti:
    NYUU I’M TAKEN. Well also too crazy for you to enjoy.
    chic noir:
    she loves you.
    dana:
    she is nice to her man, but he needs to be very politically incorrect to understate. also drama.
    db:
    I don’t know her well enough but she seems to like RacerX.
    FeministX:
    Oh God. Not on my worst enemy.
    Ghost of Nicole:
    She loves her cats more.
    Hope:
    You guys do not have any chemistry or passion between you. Also she hypnotises you into doing whatever she wishes. Not good.
    kim:
    Don’t remember anything about her.
    Lady Raine:
    Why would I do that to you, Default, why? OCD and a child? Why?
    lovelysexybeauty:
    I do not see passion happening here, either. A doctor of her own ethnicity indeed. And you two don’t seem to have clicked conversationally.
    Poetry of the Flesh:
    She is again too crazy. I think you would have issues about her sexuality.
    pupu:
    Default has not displayed any love to the pupu. Pupu is neglected.
    Sofia:
    Default has not displayed passion by opting for self-depracating humour on her now deleted blog. Sofia also has things you probably don’t want to deal with, either.
    A sex bot (a la Fifth Horseman):
    You need a REAL WOMAN. TO enjoy yourself and talk to as well as have some fun.

  100. Hope Says:

    “Also she hypnotises you into doing whatever she wishes. Not good.”

    Whaaat? O_O

    I do no such thing!

  101. Bhetti Says:

    Hopenitiser.

    Your voodoo doesn’t work on me.

    You’re the reason we even have the ‘Especially for Chicks’ series ;)

  102. Default User Says:

    @Bhetti

    What I found wrong with each choice for you:

    Interesting analysis. Thanks.

    Dana: Her attitudes would not really disturb me, although I doubt that I could out unPC her The INTJ thing would probably get me in the end.

    Alias Clio: She seems nice but you are probably right on the seriousness.

    Ghost of Nicole: Matter/antimatter.

    Hope: How can you say we have no chemistry? I did not get the hypnotize thing until I read the “Especially for Chicks” bit.

    Lovelysexy: I posted at her site a long time ago. We had a few short comments on Roissy. She seems sweet but the entry price is too high.

    Poetry: I think that would be interesting if only from a personal development point of view.

    Pupu: She does not post a lot. She seems nice and smart (all those stats). The third person thing would be a deal breaker though.

    Sofia: Self-deprecating humor is dangerous for man. It is too easy to be seen as a chump and not an easygoing person who does not take themselves too seriously. In any case, I did try humor and failed. Now if I could have made jokes about Kant I might have had a chance. I actually think I am just the calm force Sofia needs in her life. However, I am not going to study Kant, so that is that then.

    Real woman versus Sexbot: Agreed. Reality all the way. Whether it is the entire woman or just her breasts. Fakery and porn, worse than nothing.

    I almost forgot that Canadian chick. : )
    Aoefe: Yeah I like her. What’s not to like? I am sure she likes me. What’s not to like? As you said, it would not work out. She likes me as I am, except I am not the kind of man she is looking for (LJBF was not an option on the poll).

  103. Default User Says:

    @the great Hopedini

    I do no such thing!

    [clucking like a chicken from prior hypnosis]
    [dull toneless voice]What shall I do next mistress Hope.

    Bhetti is correct. You are the reason for the Chicks series (see Issue 1). You also inspired another post (On Being Alpha).

    You are inspiring not hypnotizing.
    [I just found myself typing the last sentence. I am not sure why. Something made me do it]

  104. Bhetti Says:

    How can you say we have no chemistry?
    Am just jealous!!!! ;)

  105. Default User Says:

    Horror

    I realized that I left out LILGRL from consideration.

    This changes everything.

  106. Bhetti Says:

    [Released from auto moderation/spam control. Not sure why it was spammed. Perhaps the length of the link. – Default User]

    UNRELATED OFFTOPIC COMMENT:
    International Gamefluence

    http://www.metro.co.uk/news/article.html?Female_phobic_man_is_too_scared_to_kiss_women&in_article_id=741805&in_page_id=34

  107. Hope Says:

    You are inspiring not hypnotizing.

    Thanks! I like that. :)

    On the subject of “getting other people to do whatever I wish” — I have noticed that when I try to take “control” it usually really backfires on me. But I have my own odd kind of persuasiveness, which might be an INFJ thing, since I have some insights into the motivations of others. With this knowledge I intuit what will motivate someone as opposed to what won’t.

    My man does this to me a lot. He will say just the right thing to get me to do something, and I find that I can’t help but do it. And I feel good about it, too. He just says it once, and the words stew in my mind as I think about it… it’s like he plants a seed, and it is a strong, healthy one that always germinates. I haven’t really noticed that I do this to other people though, but thinking back on it maybe I do it, too. It’s not a fully conscious process.

  108. Default User Says:

    @Hope

    . . .planting seeds. . .

    So you did hypnotize me.

    One point of interest:
    While I do seem to have more female than male commenters, the majority of my inbound links come from MRA sites.
    [Many came for the MR Matrix post. But some of those sites have added me to their blogroll as well.]

  109. Default User Says:

    @Hope
    BTW:
    Your suggestion was a good one. Sometimes longer comments deserve their own thread. It is easy to skip over long replies and miss interesting points.

  110. Hope Says:

    Speaking of inspiration… Just found this:

    “Since in addition they often possess a strong personal charisma, INFJs are generally well-suited to the “inspirational” professions such as teaching (especially in higher education) and religious leadership.”

    That describes my fiance so well. In contrast, I’m a horrible teacher and am not in an inspirational profession at all. Whatever personal charisma I have is very muted and subtle in nature.

    Just before that paragraph, though:

    “Usually self-expression comes more easily to INFJs on paper, as they tend to have strong writing skills.”

    So I’m more persuasive in writing!

  111. Bhetti Says:

    Well, you can delete that automoderated one. It is randoom.

  112. Default User Says:

    @Hope

    So I’m more persuasive in writing!

    You persuaded me. :)

    I guess you are the type to nudge people in the right direction in an gentle understated manner. You probably receive and give yourself less credit for the people you influence.

  113. Default User Says:

    @Bhetti

    What is wrong with the “love shy” link? A little off topic maybe (although it is a matchmaking thread) but unless you really want me to remove it I think it is fine.

  114. Bhetti Says:

    ‘kay: you’re the boss!

  115. Default User Says:

    @Bhetti

    ‘kay: you’re the boss!

    Another submissive?

  116. chic noir Says:

    Yes!!!
    Chic noir is queen.

  117. Bhetti Says:

    If you’re the boss, it’s definitely sexual harassment to point that out, Default.

  118. Default User Says:

    @Queen Chic

    Yes!!!
    Chic noir is queen.

    And by a decent margin. But was there ever any doubt?

  119. Default User Says:

    Bhetti

    If you’re the boss, it’s definitely sexual harassment to point that out, Default.

    It would only be sexual harassment if you were an employee, which you are not. I am not sure what they would call it if you were my slave.

  120. Bhetti Says:

    Default has dominance on the mind.
    Not the one you find every day
    But of the BDSM kind.
    Thus I have to run away,
    lamenting the lack of foreplay
    In randomly sexualising what I say.

  121. Default User Says:

    @Bhetti
    My words were just play
    But not foreplay
    Why take so serious
    lighthearted things I say?
    They were barely a flirt
    not meant to hurt
    and you can take all that for what its worth.

  122. chic noir Says:

    So we’ve pushed you past the century mark default… well done.

    @bhetti- bhetti mc&md good job. You will take away firepower’s job and the poet laurel of the château any day now. The recession is really hitting that place tuff.

    Ah, I think I have one or two more plays I can pull out. I see DA as a concert pianist.

  123. Default User Says:

    @Chic

    So we’ve pushed you past the century mark default… well done.

    And you started it all with the first reply. Thank you.

  124. chic noir Says:

    your welcome sweetheart.

    *chic and default embrace*

    *chic pulls curtain close*

    *tupac cuts hole in curtain*

  125. Default User Says:

    @Chic

    *chic and default embrace*
    *chic pulls curtain close*
    *tupac cuts hole in curtain*

    *Default smiles*

  126. SDaedalus Says:

    After NOT INCONSIDERABLE CONSIDERATION lasting
    NOT LESS THAN than one week
    AND involving reading all your blog (a delight)
    AND all the candidates blogs (less of a delight – I now know more about Feminist X’s nether regions than I would prefer)
    AND getting somewhat sidetracked into a dispute about heteronormative sex along the way, I HAVE MATCHED YOU UP WITH

    Poetry of Flesh

    FOR REASONS stated by me in the comments to your most recent Myers-Briggs post and also because

    if Pupu=Roissy then Default User=Poetry of Flesh.

    I would emphasise that IN COMING TO THIS CONCLUSION I have carefully avoided being influenced by your own slyly expressed preferences (cunning ploy, to suggest Poetry might enhance your personal development) on the basis that MOST PEOPLE DON’T KNOW WHAT’S GOOD FOR THEM. However, occasionally they DO HIT ON THE RIGHT PERSON BY ACCIDENT.

    All the best. Look forward to reading your response.

    SDaedalus

  127. Default User Says:

    @SDaedalus
    Poetry of the Flesh. Hmmm!

    I mentioned her as a joke. Obviously, the relatively mild Default User and the dominance seeking Poetry would not seem to be a good match.

    As you figured, there was an element of “maybe” about it as well. Keeping her in her place and happy might be good training for me.

    I think the problem meeting people that “might be good for us” is that we can all to easily miss each other. Each one may see the other as “too much” or “too little” not realizing that those complimentary differences can make for a good match with each providing the other something they feel they lack.

    PS
    I once considered the theory (along with others) the David Alexander was a creation of Roissy. A shadow self, the yin and the yang, or just a way to create argument.
    [I also considered the possibility that David Alexander was the real one and Roissy the creation.]

  128. brightstormyday Says:

    You left me out of this.

    jerk. >:(

    Who would be my blogosphere match though?

  129. Default User Says:

    @brightstormyday

    You left me out of this.

    I am not sure how frequent a poster you were when I made the list. At the time of writing, I scanned down various Roissy posts looking for females. You (or that Mandy! XD person) may not have been active at the time.

    Who would be my blogosphere match though?

    You mean you do not think we would make a match? >:(

  130. brightstormyday Says:

    I am Mandy. >:(

    Well, obviously, you’re with POF.

  131. Default User Says:

    @brightstormyday

    Well, obviously, you’re with POF.

    So what is your opinion of the match? A match made in heaven, a mismatch made in hell, or something in between?

  132. brightstormyday Says:

    I don’t know her well enough.

    I think you’d enjoy the match.

  133. Default User Says:

    @brightstormyday

    I think you’d enjoy the match.

    Really? She seems to prefer aggressive dominance. I don’t want to malign her (I do not read her blog and only have the evidence of some Roissy posts) but I feel there is a coldness and remoteness about her. Other than, in a science experiment way I am not sure.

    As Sdaedalus said sometimes, what is good for us might not be clear to us. As the Rolling Stones said: “You can’t always get what you want . . .And if you try sometime you find
    You get what you need”

  134. sdaedalus Says:

    Unfortunately it’s often only when we get what we want that we find we don’t need or indeed want it anymore. Females subsist in a constant state of dissatisfaction. Traditionally men have been characterised as more contented, but I wonder if that’s really the case. Perhaps permanent dissatisfaction is a characteristic of the human condition – at least the rich spoilt human condition. I wasn’t suggesting that you and Poetry form a LTR but I think that a short relationship would be good for both of you; she would get a break from anguish and you from contemplation. Sometimes it’s good to stretch our boundaries a little in terms of people we allow ourselves to be attracted to.

  135. sdaedalus Says:

    I once considered the theory (along with others) the David Alexander was a creation of Roissy. A shadow self, the yin and the yang, or just a way to create argument.[I also considered the possibility that David Alexander was the real one and Roissy the creation.]

    Like the Matrix, it’s difficult to know who in the Roissysphere is quite real, that’s part of its attraction. However it’s a bit like your point on Game above – creating alternate blogging personalities is a lot of work and hard to maintain consistently in the long term. Though it is interesting to speculate on the correspondence between active posting on one site and passive posting on another.

  136. sdaedalus Says:

    PS Why does everything I say come out in italics now? Am I just a quote? Or a figment of your imagination?

  137. sdaedalus Says:

    Typical. The italics are corrected. You’re messing with me.

  138. brightstormyday Says:

    Gosh, no one has told me who I match with yet.

    And the number of Matrix references you losers make makes me want to hate the film.

    /hate hate hate

  139. sdaedalus Says:

    Mandy

    You have to be proactive in these things. Default has to give priority to finding a match for himself before he can turn his attention to you. Unless of course you think you are his match, which would at least have the benefit of halving Default’s potential work.

    Put a post on your blog asking for potential matches with you. If nothing else it will increase your hits as the male sector of the Roissysphere vys for your attention.

    I can’t remember the Matrix very well myself but it’s always a handy way to stop an argument at a point favourable to oneself – presumably because no one else remembers it very well either.

  140. brightstormyday Says:

    I was proactive in this. I voted for Ghost of Nicole.

    I don’t want to post about that on my blog. That’s annoying.

    You know, you could just as well quote Polonius in your arguments. If you understood the irony of what I said, +1 for you.

  141. brightstormyday Says:

    Okay, I made a general matchmaker post on my blog.

    To stir controversy.

    And GOSSIP.

  142. sdaedalus Says:

    O, I am slain! Before your last post I was going to say, you are probably young enough for Roissy, but now I fear you’d take it as an insult. Perhaps (almost certainly) I’ve over posted. God b’ wi’ ye, fare ye well! This business is well ended.

  143. Default User Says:

    @sdaedalus

    Typical. The italics are corrected. You’re messing with me.

    I did correct the italics, but after you added the quoted reply. The problem was the closing <i> was mising a “\” there by leaving the italics on.

  144. sdaedalus Says:

    Thanks.

  145. Default User Says:

    @sdaedalus

    Like the Matrix, it’s difficult to know who in the Roissysphere is quite real, that’s part of its attraction

    While posters might fake (and I don’t think it is that many), I do not think many bloggers are fake for the reasons you gave. Some may exaggerate aspects of their personality by design and some by the nature of blogging (the act of writing and formulating an opinion or style).

    It is hard to completely represent ourselves online but I think some sense of out true selves shows through. I would suspect that for me (and other bloggers) you would recognize my real world personality from my blogging personality, even though it was not exactly the same.

  146. Default User Says:

    @sdaedalus

    I wasn’t suggesting that you and Poetry form a LTR but I think that a short relationship would be good for both of you; she would get a break from anguish and you from contemplation. Sometimes it’s good to stretch our boundaries a little in terms of people we allow ourselves to be attracted to.

    I agree . . . with the theory anyway. As to the specific match, who knows? It certainly would count as a challenge.

  147. Default User Says:

    @sdaedalus

    Perhaps permanent dissatisfaction is a characteristic of the human condition

    That is probably true. If not permanent, at least periods of dissatisfaction. Indeed, a lack of challenge (e.g., rich spoilt communities) is probably what leads many to restlessness and dissatisfaction.

  148. Default User Says:

    @brightstormyday

    Gosh, no one has told me who I match with yet.

    You would probably make a good match for many in the androsphere. No one stands out as an obvious choice, but I imagine you could get on well with a lot of the posters or bloggers. I reckon we could get on well. We are similar yet different.
    [I know that last sentence sounds like so much groan worthy e-flirting, but you did ask]

    So babe. the world is your oyster. So much choice. Go for it!

    PS:
    You must have your own ideas. That is, are there bloggers/posters that you think would be a good match for you?

  149. Default User Says:

    @sdaedalus

    [on The Matrix]presumably because no one else remembers it very well either.

    Yeah, I can never remember if I am supposed to take the red or blue pill.

  150. sdaedalus Says:

    it is hard to completely represent ourselves online but I think some sense of out true selves shows through. I would suspect that for me (and other bloggers) you would recognize my real world personality from my blogging personality

    Yes, I would expect so.

    Although it is possible to express one’s views more freely in the blogosphere than in real life.

    I think blogging & in my case, posting, possibly captures a part of oneself not necessarily apparent in the real world; but cannot show the whole picture, no matter how much information is provided. Of course real world knowledge, no matter how extensive, never shows the full picture either.

  151. Default User Says:

    @sdaedalus

    Although it is possible to express one’s views more freely in the blogosphere than in real life.

    The funny thing about the Internet is that it while it allows you to be as fake as you want; it also allows you to be as honest as you want. The “nobody knows you are a dog” anonymity that allows fakery also means that you cannot really lose face as that face is just words on a screen.

  152. collegeboy Says:

    default: roissy is real.
    i’ve seen pics of him on some of his other friends websites.

    Now but the character “Zeets” is false. Thats (atleast what I believe) roissys alter ego.

    “Zeets” is a manifestation of Roissys failures and stumbling blocks in seduction. Look at all the posts that feature Zeets.

  153. Default User Says:

    @collegeboy
    I figured Roissy was real (or at least no more than an exaggeration of the real person). The DA/Roissy was more an amusing thought than actual theory.

    Along with zeets, I also wondered if his Test of Your Game posts were based on experiences that he may or may not have handled successfully (or actually needs advice on).

  154. brightstormyday Says:

    THANKS FOR FLIRTING WITH ME DEFAULT. jk

    idk, I get along with everyone pretty well here.

  155. Default User Says:

    @brightflirtyday

    THANKS FOR FLIRTING WITH ME DEFAULT

    I am glad that the pleasure was not all mine.

    You do seem to get along with other posters, so I still cannot come up with one stand-out match for you.

    . . .Except for Willard Libby. When the seething passion that bubbles beneath your mutual “animosity” breaks through the surface, it will truly be a deluge that will wash you both away in an intoxicating flood that will make Hurricane Katrina look like “crumby weather.”

  156. brightstormyday Says:

    He’s my secret internet crush sshhh.

  157. brightstormyday Says:

    lol I voted for Ghost of Nicole the first round.

  158. anoukange Says:

    voted! hee….hee….

  159. Default User Says:

    @anoukange

    hee….hee….

    Does that mean you voted for the sexbot?

  160. Default User Says:

    @brightstormyvoter

    I voted for Ghost of Nicole the first round.

    You can vote for yourself this time. :/

  161. brightstormyday Says:

    But I don’t want to! that would be weird.

  162. Default User Says:

    @brightstormyfriend

    But I don’t want to! that would be weird.

    Hmmphh! Have I just been LJBFed on my own blog?

  163. brightstormyday Says:

    No!

  164. brightstormyday Says:

    k, I voted for myself and your face.

  165. Default User Says:

    @brightstormydoublevoter

    k, I voted for myself and your face.

    :3

  166. brightstormyday Says:

    :3

  167. sdaedalus Says:

    I voted for Poetry out of habit.

    But I also voted for Rebekah. It occurred to me that Lord Orville, Mr Knightley and Colonel Brandon (her hero) are rather similar. What is interesting is that I was not the only one who thought that way.

    I must confess, I did think of voting for myself, but I thought it might be bad form. It’s a bit like picking one’s own ticket out of a hat. If I voted for you, and won you, would I have to give you back? It would be a terrible dilemma to be in.

    I note I am doing relatively strongly in the poll though.

  168. sdaedalus Says:

    If you’re thinking of a harem, I suspect Rebekah and I would get on well together. We could while away the hours you spent with other harem members comparing you to Jane Austen characters.

  169. Default User Says:

    @sdaedalus

    I note I am doing relatively strongly in the poll though.

    I am glad to see that. If you could get over my lack of knowledge of literature and Greek classics than we could probably get along well. If you did not expect too much Mr. Rochester (probably closer to Mr. Rogers) then there would be hope.

    If you’re thinking of a harem, I suspect Rebekah and I would get on well together. We could while away the hours you spent with other harem members comparing you to Jane Austen characters.

    That sounds ideal until I consider the fact that two or more women conspiring rarely leads to good things.

    I see that Rebekah is also rising up the charts. She could catch up with chic noir. I am not certain that either would be happy with that result. Rebekah only has eyes for Morrissey and I feel she might see me as insensitive (but not necessarily in a cool aloof alpha kind of way).

    I voted for Poetry out of habit.

    I actually think that if you are going for opposites or different, then anoukange is a better bet than Poetry. She claimed to have voted but her score is still at zero, so I guess that means she does not agree.

    I don’t know what it says about me, or my readers, but the sexbot is still joint second most popular. While Poetry might be pleased to share a place with the sexbot, I hope that Rebekah is not offended.

  170. jmkaye Says:

    I voted for everybody except the damn sexbot.

  171. sdaedalus Says:

    Default

    I agree. I think we’d get on well. You might however be disappointed in my level of knowledge. Wikipedia is a wonderful thing.

    I’m not sure about you and Anoukange. This may of course be that female competitive thing, but if you fell out I’d have to choose between your two blogs. This would be distressing.

  172. Default User Says:

    @jmkaye

    I voted for everybody except the damn sexbot.

    Thank you for trying to right an unsettling imbalance in the Universe. Sexbot indeed hmmph!

  173. Default User Says:

    I agree. I think we’d get on well.

    Ok, just don’t let it go to your head. :/

    You might however be disappointed in my level of knowledge. Wikipedia is a wonderful thing.

    From some of your comments to others, and me, you seemed to have a familiarity with those subjects. Even your name implies a knowledge and familiarity with them.

    . . .but if you fell out I’d have to choose between your two blogs. This would be distressing.

    I certainly do not want to fall out with anoukange. No way! However, you could post under different names at both blogs. I mentioned anoukange because I was hoping to get a reaction. So far, she has refused the bait. Hey there sweetie don’t make me go over there to cause trouble. :/

  174. Rebekah Says:

    I had no idea voting was taking place — I didn’t get a notification email that you’d posted anything… Hmmm… Maybe that was for some fateful reason.

    I voted for sdaedalus! You two have a wonderful communication flow and seem to really understand each other! :)

  175. Default User Says:

    @Rebekah

    I had no idea voting was taking place

    No trickery, I promise. I did not create a new post, I just changed the date on an old post to bring it back to the top. Perhaps that is why WordPress declined to inform you of the update.

    You two have a wonderful communication flow and seem to really understand each other!

    While attraction is impossible to gauge, I think I would get on well with all (or at least most) of the posters here. I even think that I would get on with you, but only if you could forgive me for my cruel comments on INFPs. :/
    [Please note that I said posters. I am less sure that I would get along with all the candidates]

    Anyway, if nothing came of the Default User meetup, there is always the third-place (at time of writing) sex-bot.
    [I am glad to see that falling back. After all it should only be there as a fall back.]

  176. sdaedalus Says:

    You two have a wonderful communication flow and seem to really understand each other!

    Yes, try discussing Jane Eyre with a sexbot.

    However in all honesty I would have to say that women who centre their conversation round romantic fiction may well be what drives men to sexbots in the first place.

  177. Default User Says:

    @sdaedalus

    Yes, try discussing Jane Eyre with a sexbot.

    However in all honesty I would have to say that women who centre their conversation round romantic fiction may well be what drives men to sexbots in the first place.

    While a sexbot could probably be programmed to do such a thing, it would most likely end up giving you the Cliff’s Notes version or, if advanced, the dry academic deconstructivist approach.

    The fun in such a conversation is the view of human interactions and the chance for fun and flirtatious sidetracks. Only a very advanced bot that could handle that.

  178. chic noir *sigh* Says:

    so now sdaedadlus is making a move on my default.

    *chic noir shakes head*

    His name is default user and default lover. you wenches better stay far away from my man.

    *chic noir stomps foot and storms off.

  179. Default User Says:

    @chic noir
    You are still my number one (check the poll results).

  180. brightstormyday Says:

    Only a beta male would let the public decide who suits him best.

  181. Default User Says:

    @brightalphaday

    Only a beta male would let the public decide who suits him best.

    Perhaps you did not read the small print.

    Editors decision is final.

    . . . so you are still in with a chance.

  182. chic noir *sigh* Says:

    Well I’m still #1, so that’s all that matters :)

  183. chic noir *sigh* Says:

    default to mandyxd . so you are still in with a chance.

    Is that right???

    Well well well. It looks like my default user is an default player.

  184. Default User Says:

    @chic noirmber 1

    Well I’m still #1

    And well ahead of any contenders.

  185. Default User Says:

    @sigh noir

    Well well well. It looks like my default user is an default player.

    We both know that I only play at been a player.

  186. chic noir *sigh* Says:

    Default I don’t believe you. YOu seen like the type who plays at being such a nice sweet beta until you wipe it out on the woman.then you carnally destroy her with such sweet and deep *loving* that she’s in love.

    I bet that was what you did to your #2 SNL. that’s why she had to come back for seconds.

    SMH

  187. chic noir *sigh* Says:

    Who the hell voted for dana. I wounld’nt put you two togeather in an ant fight.

  188. Default User Says:

    @chic noir

    Who the hell voted for dana. I wounld’nt put you two togeather in an ant fight.

    An “ant fight.” I have never heard that one before, but it sounds funny. As to the votes for Dana, who knows? Some people have a mischievous streak. I did leave the door open to playing mischief, or just been plain mean. In any case the sexbot still has more votes.

  189. Default User Says:

    @chic noir

    I bet that was what you did to your #2 SNL. that’s why she had to come back for seconds

    But she only came back for seconds and then fluttered out of my life. No destruction that I was aware of.

  190. chic noir *sigh* Says:

    But she only came back for seconds and then fluttered out of my life.

    that’s because she realized if she felt herself falling in love.

    No destruction that I was aware of
    How was she walking the next morning?

  191. Default User Says:

    @chic noir *sigh*

    How was she walking the next morning?

    She had a spring in her step and a sparkle in her eyes.

  192. chic noir *sigh* Says:

    Haha

    Well default, it looks like you have default mastery of the carnal arts. I know you did, there is something that’s just too sweet about you for you to be a dud.

    Other women in the sphere feel it too and that’s why they can’t stay away from you.

    Well that and my “social profing” you all over the net.

  193. Default User Says:

    @chic noir
    Thanks for “social proofing” me. You can be my wing girl anytime [cue Top Gun music]

    PS
    You always cheer me up. Thanks.

  194. chic noir *sigh* Says:

    You always cheer me up. Thanks.
    :) same likewise.

    You can be my wing girl anytime [cue Top Gun music]

    Lol

  195. Default User Says:

    @chic noir *wing girl*
    PS
    We forgot the high five and big hug.

  196. chic noir *sigh* Says:

    chic noir is still the winner baby! :)

    neither Sdaeduls or mandyxd ain’t taking you from me default.

  197. chic noir *sigh* Says:

    default chic noir *wing girl*

    I don’t have any wings but i have a nice breast or thign for you :wink:

    PS
    We forgot the high five and big hug.
    Oh I didn’t forget, you were so busy being the default playboy you forgot about me :(

  198. Default User Says:

    @my wing girl chic

    chic noir is still the winner baby!

    And nobody can catch her now!

    Why the *sigh* ? Has chic noir become chic bleu? Is the *sigh* a permanent addition or just a temporary condition?

  199. chic noir aka madame default Says:

    Well, I’m feeling better now sweetie. Got my energy back.

  200. Default User Says:

    @chic De Fault

    Well, I’m feeling better now sweetie. Got my energy back.

    I am glad to hear it and to see you lost the *sigh* (unless it was a sigh of contentment).

  201. chic noir Says:

    good my e-honey. Oh with you it’s always a sigh of contentment default.

    *chic noir gives cheeky grin*

  202. Default User Says:

    @contented chic

    Oh with you it’s always a sigh of contentment default

    I am glad to hear that. I aim to please.

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