More of the dating and attraction world explained in neat graphs.
Women are like options, men are like a savings account.
A common meme in the PUA sphere is the idea of a sexual market value (SMV). A person’s SMV defines how easily they can find a partner and how hot that partner will be.
The trajectory of SMV is very different between men and women. A Woman’s peak SMV is in her early twenties. A man’s peak SMV happens around his mid thirties.
A man’s SMV rises with age as he gathers the wealth, status and confidence that he trades in the sexual market place. A woman’s SMV falls with age as she loses the looks that she trades in the sexual market place.
In their twenties women’s SMV is way above that of their same-age cohort of men. They are at the peak of their sexual attractiveness; the men are just callow youths.
As they age, men build confidence and move onwards an upwards in their life. They gain wealth and status, the enter leadership positions, the callow youth becomes a young man. As a result their SMV rises over time.
SMV Men versus women. Stylized and exaggerated.
As the chart shows there is a massive gap between the SMV of men and women in their twenties. We could call this Blue-Ball Gulch or Bitter Beta Gap. In their mid thirties things turn around for men. Their rising SMV meets the falling SMV of same-age women. We might call this Cougar Crossing. As they move into their forties men’s SMV, although falling, is now above that of same-age women. We could call that the Bitter Bitches Gap.
For you futures traders here is a nice market neutral play. Short the 20-year-old women and go long the 35-year-old-man. Because this is a hedged position it should carry lower margin requirements.
[Please note that Default User is not an accredited commodity trading advisor and is not authorized to offer investment advice. All information is presented for discussion and entertainment purposes only]
The Mystery Method in One Picture
OK, I have not read The Mystery Method but have seen articles on it. I imagine that he has a chart similar to this one (A1, A2, etc.)
The chart below represents what I think is the natural progression of a romantic relationship. It also shows where a man needs to place his efforts (“intensity”) at each stage of the seduction and relationship (if it goes long-term).
Attraction to bonding over time. Very stylized and exaggerated.
She is hot. Your eyes meet. She gives a smile. You count 1…2…3 and move. You now have to create a favorable impression. You want her to be clear that you are a sexual being, you are not just a potential nice friend. Your early interaction is about generating attraction.
She is now interested. Your total awesomeness has captured her attention. You can now ease off on the sexual attraction and start to create an emotional connection (“comfort”). This will be a time of lots of jokes, light stories and shared laughs.
You are hot for each other and getting along well. If you want to move towards a more long-term relationship you will need to start intellectually bonding. This where you see if you share values, hopes, and dreams. This is also a time when differences in education, religion, intelligence, and social class can come to the fore. You have already built a good base (sexual attraction and emotional connection) so this is an important time.
Don’t Get Bored:
The attract spikes are those moments that you “jazz up” the relationship. They are those times when you remind each other why you first go together (sexual attraction). This is what might be called LTR-Game. It is a vital part of keeping your relationship alive and exciting.
Some might say your intensity should be 100 percent on all things, all the time. I don’t believe so. To keep at 100 percent all the time is tiring and less comfortable. Being comfortable most of the time is not the problem. The problem is when relationships are comfortable all the time, and that is what those attractions spikes are for (breaking the monotony).
So there you have it: the world of romantic relationships in one simple graph. If only all life were so simple…
…If only romantic relationships were so easy.