There seems to be a recent growth in discussions of the plight of the beta male. Whiskey, Novaseeker, ‘In Male Fide’, Roissy’s sometimes contains discussions on this. There is even a blog called The Beta Revolution, and A. J. Travis’s 2nd American Revolution (2012).
[I imagine Roissy would shudder at the thought of been part of anything beta.]
Each blogger has a slightly different take and the exact definition of beta varies, but the general consensus seems to be that that feminism and societal changes are hurting him.
Much of the discussion focuses on a man’s ability to find a suitable mate for marriage (or just for fun). However I think that problem is deeper. The real problem is it is hard for a man to find a place in society. By place I mean a position that carries respect or status.
In prior generations marriage provided that place for many men, they were head of a household, provided leadership to their wife and children, and the role of father was given respect and status. For unmarried men there was their career or profession.
In today’s world it is harder to find a place. Deindustrialization has taken many skilled blue-collar jobs, offshoring is taking many skilled white collar jobs, immigration has increased competition for the lower skilled, the H1-B scam has increased competition for many white-collar jobs.
The growth in female employment has again added to the competition (lowering wages and reducing opportunities). It means many men will now be subservient to women.
Globalization and corporatization tends to turn people into factors of production and units of consumption. It is harder for a man to shine when he is one of twenty analysts, programmers, accountants, or whatever.
An important point is that it is not really about women (at least the pursuit of women), it is not even about marriage. It is about gaining respect. It just so happens that marriage was one way a man found that before (as head of household). Feminism and the sexual revolution have made things worse for many men, but they are not the only problem.
It is status and respect (i.e., been “somebody”) and fulfillment of some purpose that will make a man happy. If marriage is not available he will have to find something else. His mission should not be taken because he thinks it will get him a woman or women. His mission is about him, his purpose and his place in the world.
[A handy side effect of finding his mission, purpose, and place is that he just might find a woman on the way. However that should not be the aim, it is only a potential benefit.]
The Non Manifesto
“The fault, dear Brutus, is not in our stars,
But in ourselves, that we are underlings.”
Julius Caesar (I, ii, 140-141)
The bad news: There is no revolution. There will be no revolution. You are on your own. No one will help you. The cavalry is not coming (we called but it went to voice mail). Other men will not help. They are competing with you. They are competing against you for jobs, wealth, resources, and women. Women will not help. They don’t care. They are also competing against you for jobs and resources. It is just you and the great big inky-black void. There are two things that keep a man fighting: hope and survival instinct. Hope is what keeps you waiting for the cavalry, the revolution, and the woman who will make it all better. It is what keeps you from the fight. Abandon hope and all you have is survival instinct. When it is just survival instinct the claws come out. When the claws come out the fight begins.
The good news: The revolution can begin. It is a revolution of one. It begins with you and it ends with you. It begins when you stop giving a shit about what society thinks or about what women think. Find your mission and purpose. Write your own revolutionary manifesto.